I don't generaly address the education of the very young, but this article is very helpful.

https://www.npr.org/sections/goatsandsoda/2021/03/05/974069925/are-we-raising-unhelpful-bossy-kids-heres-the-fix?utm_term=nprnews&utm_campaign=npr&utm_medium=social&utm_source=facebook.com&fbclid=IwAR2a1d1khkaPNttBie5-fLxhObNOhvrCsmXFom9H6mQIC9XAdBk2y6Txoyo